And I understand how stressful it can be, but you need to do two things: act now and calm down, way down. You are dealing with a really serious issue and as a parent, you want to make a connection before a correction, and listen, really listen, and listen from the heart.

1. Open communication: Approach the situation with a calm and non-judgmental demeanor. Create a safe space for your child to express to you what they are going through, and their thoughts without fear of punishment or criticism. Only then would you be able to open dialogue about their behavior and its consequences.

2. Understand why: Try to understand why your child is engaging in bullying behavior. Often, bullying can happen from feelings of insecurity, a desire for power, or problems managing emotions. 

3. Teach empathy and respect: Help your child develop empathy by discussing the impact of their actions on others. Have them put themselves in someone else?s shoes, in this case, the person they have bullied. Emphasize the importance of treating others with respect, kindness, and understanding. Now, for some kids this may be the link that puts everything together, including their first sense of oneness, and they will stop the behavior. For others, it will mean absolutely nothing, and the bullying will get worse, for those cases, it is better to contact a professional.

4. Set clear boundaries and consequences: Make it clear to your child that bullying behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Establish specific rules and expectations regarding their behavior. Clearly communicate the consequences that will follow if they engage in bullying again.

5. On the opposite side, if they do well and stay away from engaging in bullying: then help your child build positive relationships and develop love, compassion and understanding. Have them engage in activities that promote these positive changes in them, like community service, volunteering, sports, yes sports, especially for those children that are wanting some sense of power, or need to release stamina, which many times leads to that sensation of control. If they cannot join sports for any other reason, then go for a walk or a run with them, tell them something like ?hey you know what, I?ve noticed you have not engaged in any bullying stuff, I appreciate that so much, let?s go for a walk, I want to spend some time with this cool version of you?? you also get to know them better, to spend time with them, this one is very powerful, and the consequence of that great positive change.

6. Seek professional help if necessary: If the bullying behavior persists or is severe, consider seeking professional guidance. Consult a pediatrician, school counselor, or therapist who specializes in child behavior to assess the situation and provide appropriate support and intervention strategies.

7. Involve the school: Inform your child's school about the situation, especially if bullying occurs on school grounds. And let your child know the school knows. Collaborate with teachers, administrators, and counselors to address the issue effectively. Kind of build a team together to create a supportive environment that promotes tolerance and respectful behavior.

Remember, changing a child's behavior takes time and consistent effort. Be patient with your child, but remain firm in your stance against bullying. By addressing the issue early and providing the necessary support, you can help your child develop empathy, respect, and healthier ways of relating to others.